Moving on

LIFE WITHOUT HIM: THE BUCKET LIST 

Now I do believe that predicaments such as mine arise to teach us lessons. Amongst others, the most important lessons I have learnt and will work towards fixing are:

  • Making a difference to those in need. I need to make a success of this online support group to assist all those who experience betrayal.

  • Having always being very involved in community work I had neglected assisting any organisation over the last year being too involved in my work and private lifestyle. This will change; I will get back to doing community work.

  • I neglected the people who really cared for me and who I really loved. I was not always there for them at times when they really needed me - always putting my husband and my work first. I will ensure that I am always there for those who need me. 

I had started taking all the material goods we had for granted, not saying thank you often enough. I now say thank you a hundred times a day. 

The above, together with tackling my bucket list of fears will get me through this ordeal. My bucket list includes:

  • Skydiving
  • Bungee jumping
  • High speed Motor biking
  • A Deep sea diving course and then "eventually" diving with sharks
  • Climbing Kilimanjaro
  • White river rafting the Grand Canyon
  • Having a tattoo (a hidden one)

I have been given a second lease on life, so, watch this space...!

HOW CAN WE MAKE A DIFFERENCE?

It starts with sharing. To learn how to fight the aftermath of betrayal you need to know it's going to be OK and that others have been there too and survived!

We tend to think that only woman are betrayed, or that woman suffer more severely than men.This is not always the case as betrayed men often suffer the additional loss of losing their children when divorce takes place. This group is aimed at assisting everyone, irrelevant of gender or sexual orientation.

Please share your story of betrayal with us on this blog so that we may be an example to those who find themselves alone and without hope. If you are not sure how to tell your story or even how to start, use this shortlist below and start by telling us about:

  • The betrayal which took place. (This betrayal could be between partners, friends, parents etc.)
  • The coping mechanisms you used
  • Advice you think would be beneficial for the healing process to start.

By sharing your story, you will become a member of this concerned, compassionate, supportive and life-changing group of betrayed people who will understand and share your pain.


    Lots of love and best wishes,